When conflict arises in our relationship, which it inevitably does, we try to keep our cool and approach the issue by identifying the cause of the conflict, and find a solution to avoid it happening again. This way of dealing with conflict seems great in theory, but it only works in practice if both parties are willing to participate. That willingness comes from a place of knowing that our own needs must be second, and seeing value in respecting and appreciating the other person for their individuality and unique personality.
It takes a heart that can be broken to bring about true forgiveness; no one is perfect and we start to see this in our relationships as we get to know each other better. We need to humble ourselves and learn that as humans we are broken vessels, but these cracks in us allow light to enter in.
We were just thinking about Matthew 7:3 this week; Jesus says “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?” Often in our relationships, we can so easily spend our time with a plank in our own eye, going about our day knocking everyone down because of a lack of self-examination. Self-examination is a forerunner to compassion and forgiveness. The perfection of Christ should have us stand in awe and reverence; I see my need for Him when I realize my own shortcomings.
Proverbs 11:14 says: “Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counsellors there is safety.” The self-absorbed person is a dangerous person. We would prefer in our relationship to face the pain of self-examination and change than become useless chaff that is thrown to the flames.
We find that our relationship is strengthened in community, friends, brothers, sisters, and mentors through the church. It is so necessary to have true friends in our lives, to share our burdens, weights and battles and also share stories of hope and joy and triumph. When we are isolated, we may not have the sense to see that the path we’re heading down is in fact to the grave.
As it states in Hebrews 12:1, “Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us.” This is why we love C3; we have a multitude ready to cheer us on.