When do you know the difference between making decisions based on wisdom and decisions based on your knowledge?

Oftentimes, I consider wisdom and knowledge to be one and the same; it seems like the more you know, the wiser you are. Wisdom is the practical application of the knowledge you learn, or rather exactly how you use what you’ve learned. My parents were both very wise, and that was instilled in me from a young age. When I moved out of my parent’s house, I lived with someone eight years older than me. I was always surrounded by people who already knew the ropes of life more than I did, so I gleaned a lot from my surroundings and grew up pretty quickly, bypassing some serious hurdles that most people have to overcome on their own.

I can make quick decisions based on my knowledge because it’s hardwired into my impulses, but when decisions require more thought, the wise part of my brain kicks in. Judging by how long it normally takes me to make hard decisions, I think I have a long way to go before I would call myself “wise” (or maybe taking a long time to make a hard decision actually denotes wisdom – you tell me!), but I know that being wise requires experience and excellence. You have to earn it.

When is it hard for you to worship? Does wisdom or making difficult decisions impact your worship?

I’m a drummer, so there is always a beat happening inside of my head. On Sunday mornings, I often have the privilege of expressing that beat through the drums as part of our worship team. I feel like all of my experiences, knowledge of God, and wisdom merge into one direct line of communication to God when we worship. It’s a full submission and surrender to Him, surrounded by beautiful sounds of the band and congregation singing (not to mention I get to be the loudest person in the room, so that feels good sometimes too).

However, it’s not always easy to remain focused and present whilst worshiping. With a background in live production, I’ve always been behind the scenes at church; making sure things sound good, look good, and feel good is always at the forefront of my mind. One misspelled word, or the color of the projector, or the levels of the audio in the room easily distracts me because my calling has always been to fix those problems so that other people can have a seamless experience. But I realize that it’s unrealistic to expect everything to always be perfect, so I try my hardest to meditate on the word, pray, and really cancel out the outside world whilst worshiping. That’s the only way I can be comfortable and fully receive what God wants to use me for.  

How important is the revelation from God in decision making in your work and relationships?

Making a decision has always been the hardest thing for me. Where to live? Who to marry? What job do I want? What are we ordering on Seamless? Decisions are hard! But that’s the cool thing about God – He’s really helpful when it comes to making decisions (though probably not very helpful when deciding if you want to order Thai or sushi). Prayer is also hugely helpful when seeking clarity. Similar to worship, meditating in His presence and focusing on Him is revealing in itself; and once God speaks to you, it’s probably in your best interest to listen.

I often have a hard time asking for help, but I know that God is always there to guide me through my difficulties. Knowing that God is always around and always on my side is what gets me through the hardest decisions. If God is for me, who can be against me?

How do you grow your wisdom in Christ, personally and in your marriage?

There isn’t one cookie cutter answer for how to curate a marriage or grow in wisdom. In my experience, it’s oftentimes trial-by-fire. If I want to do something, but my wife doesn't like it, or know that I’m even going to do it, I try it out and see what happens. Like a kid touching the burner on the stove, you know not to touch it again after it hurts you the first time. I try to be a little more cautious with God, in the sense that I inherently already know right and wrong, and through seeking His wisdom He can help me make the right decisions. But sometimes, I still test God. I feel like we are always trying to push things a little further than what we know we should. But that’s the beauty of growth; you learn from your mistakes. Hopefully by the time we’re all 50, 60, 100 years old, we will have made a few mistakes and grown a little wiser, but it’s always comforting to know that God (or my wife) is forgiving and walks with us as we grow.