This Sunday, we began our Cøllide series, and Pastor Josh spoke about relationships, drawing from Romans 12 .

The Art of Relationship // Josh Neuroth

For me, Sunday was the first step towards a fresh start in relationship renewal. Since hearing the message, two relationships that were damaged in my life have been renewed and reconciled. I did not believe there was much hope for these two friendships, but somehow a simple conversation with each person has changed everything. What was once badly damaged is now refreshed and at peace. 

How did it happen? 

Romans 12:1 says to “offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God.” This means that whatever a person said or did ultimately doesn't matter, because we are all called to sacrifice. The “pattern of the world” in this case is to believe we have “rights” in a relationship. If someone wrongs us, it's our right to remove them from our life. But Romans 12:16 says, “Live in harmony with one another; do not be haughty (snobbish, high-minded, exclusive), but readily adjust yourself to [people, things] and give yourselves to humble tasks.”

When we do it God's way, we are asked to offer our perceived rights to Him as a living sacrifice. It no longer matters if someone hurt or wronged me because I'm choosing a new attitude towards that person — I’m choosing to be renewed, to live in harmony and love them as God loves me. 

I'm not strong enough in my own power to love someone who has hurt me. I can try, using brute force and discipline, but that's not real love and will end in self-righteous actions while still having a heart of bitterness. God has to empower me to love others. And this starts with simple surrender: “Lord, I'm giving the past up. Renew my heart and mind with Your love.” The first step towards relationship renewal is to humble ourselves before God and let Him do the rest!

God wants us to live in harmony with others; He wants to renew the patterns we have learned from the world and teach us the true art of relationship.